The Struggle of The Modern Day Single Woman

I am surrounded by the modern day independent woman who gets what she wants on her own, works hard and has so much ambition but is always talking about how men aren’t shit and they are all “wastemen”. I am admittedly one of them and it had me thinking about the society we live in today.

Many people talk about how relationships like our grandparent’s don’t exist anymore, but I don’t think that is the case. I just think less people are willing to deal with someone else’s flaws and mistakes. Many times, people stay in a relationship or marriage because they depend on that person for more than just companionship but also financial support etc. So if you have your own, then there is nothing keeping you in a relationship that has gone sour or with a partner that has gone astray. Continue reading “The Struggle of The Modern Day Single Woman”

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Soul of A Nation – A Revoking Exhibition

To say I have been living in London for over 3 years and hadn’t been to the Tate modern, I took this art exhibition as my perfect excuse for some culture in the capital.  The soul of a nation – art in the age of black power exhibition showcased art from 1963 to 1983 but not just any type of art. ‘ Black Art’ was initially rejected in America then, with the civil rights movement still fresh, many black artist had to find alternative ways to display and redefine their art.

The exhibition was set up to walk you through different era’s, showing how the art transformed and transcended itself to tell the stories of the unheard. It begins in 1963, the height of the Civil Rights Movement in America. While this movement fought for the equality of all, there were many who rejected this idea and instead were fighting for Black Power. Continue reading “Soul of A Nation – A Revoking Exhibition”

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The First Date Rules

So, the past year or so of being Single has led me to explore the fast pace, vibrant and challenging dating scene in London. A year ago, I was terrified to go on a date with someone and have to take the time to get to know them but once I got out there it was a little less intimidating.

I have tried the likes of Tinder and Bumble – while it can be fun on a Sunday evening to swipe around and judge people on their looks while you’re laid in your pyjamas at home and the grey skies are rolling in, it just hasn’t led to anything substantial. In fact, I have always had more of a connection with the people I met the old school way (you know, without the internet). I know people who have met their future partner through dating apps but majority of the people on there are easily distracted. It has just become way too easy to meet people, yet harder to keep them around.

So now, I like to think I am quite the first date expert. I have gone on a few, analysed the market performance and come up with a few rules to follow to avoid super awkward situations (this is for both men and women) because I wish I had a rulebook to take along with me on a few of my first, first dates. Continue reading “The First Date Rules”

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The Art of Going Down South

How does one celebrate a year of being single? They go to a member’s only strip club to learn about the truth in orgasms and receives a few vibrating gifts.

Got your attention now I bet!

I am going to take a slightly different topic of discussion in this post, maybe some of you will hate it ( I know my younger brother will) and maybe some of you will feel like you came out of this as a new person, either way, I am going to write it. Why is there so much stigma behind sex? It is a natural thing that brought most of us here, it is basically the reason you can read this post. But what about what it can actually do to your soul and your body (if done correctly)?  Continue reading “The Art of Going Down South”

Escaping the city with Volvo

Everyone who knows me knows I am a big city girl. It is what I know being raised on a city island but every now and again it is nice to escape and isolate myself away from the fast-pace buzz. I have just come back from a trip to New York, and since that was basically London on steroids, I was quite happy to be invited by Volvo to take some time with them in escaping the city in their Canary wharf pop up.

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London Festival Guide: Wireless vs Lovebox

It is that time of year! Summer is coming, time to prepare to shake that bootaye..

Summer in London is constant crowded pubs, picnics, rooftop drinking, festivals and then of course, London Carnival. We may not have good weather, but we sure know how to party and make the most of our 5 days of sunshine.

Now most of you are probably planning for the summer already and one of the big hot topics is which festivals to go too. Why are festivals so great? You pay the same amount of money that you would for a concert but instead you get to see more acts, party outdoors for the whole day and there usually is more space to move around!

I am always torn between Wireless and Lovebox so this year, I am just going to do both ( we went to Parklife in Manchester last year and I am NEVER doing that again – horrible crowd, horrible infrastructure and horrible weather). But if you are trying to decide for just one then here is a quick comparison that could help you.

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A letter to 2016

11 more days to the New year and I really cannot wait for 2017. I know, I know, its just a calendar date and if you want to make a resolution you should start today. But I actually have so much to look forward to, a new flat, a new job, a lot is changing.

Am I nervous? Hell yes! But I have learnt so much this year that I can only embrace the chance and welcome it with arms wide open.

The past few months have brought many ups and downs, like any year. But this year was slightly more dramatic yet I have come out on the other side, never feeling more free or strong. I hope the same goes for most of you, but many of you might still be facing rough times. I am by no means a know it all, nor do I claim to be perfect but I do take every lesson life teaches me and try to share them with anyone I care about, including anyone who is taking their time to read this.

  1. Always trust your gut instinct

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18 things I wish I knew in my 20s

At 25 life can taste a bit bitter. Being 24 meant I was still in the same age bracket as my 21 year old self, but now I´m in with the late 20s crowd, I´m scared.

What if I don´t buy my first car or figure out what I want to do by the time I turn 30?  I was suppose to have it all planned out by now, yet I am still trying to figure it all out. Where/when am I going to settle down and find my dream job? Wait, what is my dream job?

It is all a big, fat BLUR.

But then my Mommy came to the rescue, I told her not to start with the whole “life begins at 40” bullshit so instead, she said she would list a few things she wish she knew at my age. So let´s see if after my mom´s wise words you feel a little more settled about being unsettled.

  1. Use sunscreen and moisturise daily, you will thank me when you´re 40
  2. Never stop learning
  3. Make yourself independent, as soon as you can.
  4. Being a geek really isn´t so bad
  5. Believe that you will make the best choice for yourself
  6. Beware of women with big hands, especially in Bangkok
  7. Don´t regret burning bridges, regret that certain people were not on the bridge
  8. It´s OK to be a bitch
  9. When faced with an option to have another drink or to go home, have another drink – unless you´re paying.
  10. The only permanent thing in life is change
  11. Believe in the power of contraception
  12. Don´t ever live in one place your whole life, make the opportunity to move to another city or country. I promise it will teach you things.
  13. When in doubt or lost, show gratitude for the journey so far and what you have. You are luckier than many others.
  14. That boy who broke your heart is a twat and there will be other twats you meet along the way. But eventually you will find “the one”, maybe even more than once.
  15. If you don´t know whether you should laugh or cry, laugh until you cry.
  16. Don´t forget to save up but also make sure you spend the money you work hard for to earn and live your life. There is no point saving up for your funeral, your kids can deal with that.
  17. You should either love the job you do, learn to love it, or leave.
  18. Always trust your intuition about a person or situation, you are usually right.